everyday life · positivity · relationships · women

Some people made motherhood a shortcoming while others made it my strength

“udaas mat hona .Khushi khushi university jana. Aaj khana meri taraf se” (I will send food today so do not worry.Be happy and go to the university)

“Do not worry. I will pick kids today if you get late”

These were the messages I received on first day of the new semester. This is how strong my support system is.

Writing is my passion. Very excited to see a child care facility along with the subjects of my  interest being offered, I decided to  pursue my Masters  with my four year old. Energetic and over joyed I started. To my shock and dismay ,the day care refused to take my daughter giving the reason that they do not take school going children.I like surprises. But it was a bad one. Juggling between long hours of studies and my  daughter the circumstances became challenging. I tried  convincing the  teachers for little changes in the time table.  A teacher suggested I should comeback when my daughter grows up. I didn’t lose hope. I kept going. But when the head of the department suggested that I can keep my four year old daughter in the parking lot,I knew it was over . I left the university.

Fast forward to few more years. This is my last year of MPhil program .

CS is my second interest. But I did not regret taking admission here. The class representative makes sure that classes do not clash with my daughter’s school timing.My class fellows support me fully.  When I asked the HOD if ever needed ,would I be allowed to bring my daughter to the department. She didn’t suggest me to leave her in the parking lot. She expressed her concerns if she would be comfortable in the hot weather even if I keep her in the department. At times, (without asking ) I would be given extra  time to complete an assignment. I do not misuse the privilege. But I feel empowered. I feel empowered because I know here the teachers are on my side. They encourage me, they give me the power to keep going.

People might forget about these small random acts of kindness .But for me every concern, every text, every pickup was important and each one of them strengthened me. Managing a house along with studies does get tough .But believe me, It is not me. It is my support system which carries me through.

Some people made motherhood a shortcoming while others made it my strength. Be each other’s support. Words are a powerful tool. Do not use them to drain someone’s energy. Do not tell people you can not do it. Use them to empower .Use them to energize people around you.

A big Thank you to all the women in my life who make  me stronger everyday.Happy women’s day!

 

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contentment · everyday life · relationships

ReFocus: Stop being a barrier to your happiness

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People might deceive you . They might hurt you. Remember they are just people. They are not perfect. They would not change for you.
If you are not happy with how people behave. Lower your expectations.

High expectations often lead to great disappointments. Thinking of others meanness, pretense, indifference, greediness or other shortcomings will only leave you emotionally drained. Remember these things are not in YOUR control.
Stop creating reasons for your unhappiness.
Your anger irritation would not burst the bubble they live in.
Stop expecting. That is where you happiness lies.

everyday life · everyday superhero · positivity

everyday super heroes

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For changing the world, we do not have to wait for a super hero. We just have to contribute our share.

We do not realize the ways we can bring the change. This seemingly little girl Nora is very big at heart. Ever since she lost her grandmother to cancer, she intentionally grows her hair long enough and then donates it to the cancer patients.

Reaction to pain is in your hands. Pain is a VERY powerful emotion. You can turn your pain into anger. You can turn it into frustration and depression and you can turn into generosity. You are the one who has the ability to use it as a driving force to make the world a better place for people who are going through the same trauma.

Generosity does not require you to be rich, poor, old or young. Generosity can be as old as Edhi and as young as Nora.

travel

Powindahs-nomads

We do not runaway from people. We runaway from ourselves.

We runaway from the rebel within us… from the risk taker, the lover,the explorer..we run away from the nomad within us who wants to wander..like the one who every now and then unties himself from the strings of a settled life.

And then we get scared. So we drown ourselves in the noise ..that is called the world.

Political · social

Lets hope ,dream and build(Dekhna Gunwana Mat, Daulat-e-yaqeen Logon!)

Good morning and good luck Pakistan.

Years of looting and plundering cannot be done overnight. But I hope Imran khan performs his part in making Pakistan a little better.
I hope people who criticize him for the sake of criticism channelize their energy in doing their part to make Pakistan better.
The supporters of parties who have looted and murdered their own people…burned their own cities…and silently followed their insane leaders now will rant ‘is this nia pakistan?’ every single day.

Replace your negative energies with efforts to make Pakistan better .Lets team up and make Pakistan better.
Without little hope ..we wont be able to achieve anything.

Lets hope for a change. Stay positive and spread positivity.

Nafraton k darwaazay khud pe band hee rakhna
Iss watan k parcham ko sarbuland hee rakhna!

Long live pakistan..lets dream together….hope together and most importantly work together.

Dekhna Gunwana Mat, Daulat-e-yaqeen Logon!

#elections2018 #pakistan #helpPakistanprosper #spreadpositivity #sabSePehlayPakistan

 

social

#justice for khadija

Every time we celebrate justice …it is shattered with negative forces of power.Numbness strikes with shock , grief and hopelessness.
But if they so firmly believe that what you do will not come back to you…why should not we firmly believe that it will !

 

Munsif tumhay kehtay hain
Yeh insaaf hai tumhara?
Khadija zakhmon se choor hai
Yeh tum ko hai gawara?
Mujrim phiray azaad
Yeh faisla hai tumhara?
Munsif tumhai kehtay hain
Munsif to nahi ho.
Khuda khud ko samjhtay ho
Khuda to nahi ho.
Munsif hai Woh jo
wahi tum se ab insaaf karay ga
Jo ‘adal’ tum nai kia ..
Sab hisaab baibaak karay ga.


 

everyday life · hope

New year resolution-2018

Need is limited .Want is unlimited.
My new year resolution is to be less distracted by ‘greed of abundance ‘.
To prefer people over materialistic things which lose their charm soon after you get them.( a hot cup of tea is an exception)
To smile more and grudge less.
More water.Less sugar.
Give benefit of the doubt more often.Judge less.
To stay in touch with people who matter.
More forgiveness.Less regrets.
I am already wanting so much.May be this is what I need.
Less things.More people.Yes!
#newyear #resolution #forgive #wantLess #loveMore