“udaas mat hona .Khushi khushi university jana. Aaj khana meri taraf se” (I will send food today so do not worry.Be happy and go to the university)
“Do not worry. I will pick kids today if you get late”
These were the messages I received on first day of the new semester. This is how strong my support system is.
Writing is my passion. Very excited to see a child care facility along with the subjects of my interest being offered, I decided to pursue my Masters with my four year old. Energetic and over joyed I started. To my shock and dismay ,the day care refused to take my daughter giving the reason that they do not take school going children.I like surprises. But it was a bad one. Juggling between long hours of studies and my daughter the circumstances became challenging. I tried convincing the teachers for little changes in the time table. A teacher suggested I should comeback when my daughter grows up. I didn’t lose hope. I kept going. But when the head of the department suggested that I can keep my four year old daughter in the parking lot,I knew it was over . I left the university.
Fast forward to few more years. This is my last year of MPhil program .
CS is my second interest. But I did not regret taking admission here. The class representative makes sure that classes do not clash with my daughter’s school timing.My class fellows support me fully. When I asked the HOD if ever needed ,would I be allowed to bring my daughter to the department. She didn’t suggest me to leave her in the parking lot. She expressed her concerns if she would be comfortable in the hot weather even if I keep her in the department. At times, (without asking ) I would be given extra time to complete an assignment. I do not misuse the privilege. But I feel empowered. I feel empowered because I know here the teachers are on my side. They encourage me, they give me the power to keep going.
People might forget about these small random acts of kindness .But for me every concern, every text, every pickup was important and each one of them strengthened me. Managing a house along with studies does get tough .But believe me, It is not me. It is my support system which carries me through.
Some people made motherhood a shortcoming while others made it my strength. Be each other’s support. Words are a powerful tool. Do not use them to drain someone’s energy. Do not tell people you can not do it. Use them to empower .Use them to energize people around you.
A big Thank you to all the women in my life who make me stronger everyday.Happy women’s day!